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July 11, 2008
Honesty and Integrity do not just apply to online sellers, but to fellow loopies who participate in Bow Swaps.
I have watched fellow loopies get so excited about swapping bows with thier partners.
Extra care and love go into each bow, hoping that the bow will be loved by the reciever.
Shortly after deadline day, I have read posts praising the bow maker and sharing pictures of the swapped bow.
Seriously.. you would think it was Christmas and Santa just came down your chimney.
There were a few ladies whose partners stopped all communication and never sent bows.
How sad is that?
I personally have not participated in any swaps because of time constraints.
I had my 4th baby 3.5 months ago and I moved last month.
I KNEW I could not commit my time to participate.
If something came up and you couldn’t participate, how hard is it to email your partner?
We have kids, we understand that life throws curve balls all the time.
There is no excuse for shutting off all communication.
It truly is a real slap in the face.
There are Dead Beat Bow Swappers in every Yahoo group , message board, and forum.
You all can’t hide anymore if you are outed here at Rosie’s Ribbons.
If you are going to “out” a Dead Beat Bow Swapper, I have 2 rules:
1) First name and last initial ONLY.
2) Yahoo or Forum ID
You may leave an email address for someone to contact you for more information about your DBS. (I got tired of typing it over and over)
There are 3 comment(s) for me so far ;)
Ok…her name is Ashley H. Yahoo User ID ashleyhaddon
She is my deadbeat swapper from the May/June Swap. I e-mailed her right away and it took a couple weeks before she responded (first bad sign). We both agreed the deadline wouldn’t work for either of us and settled on a week later. I actually sent mine out a few days after our agreed deadline. I sent out a total of 7 bows (2 sets and 3 singles).
I e-mailed her to find out if she got it and she e-mailed and told me no. Checked my delivery confirmation and indeed she did receive them the day before I asked her. I informed of that so she changed her story. I e-mailed her and asked when I should be expecting my bows…no response. I e-mailed her a total of 22 times not including posts on the yahoo group aimed directly at her. I only got a response from her a handful of times. After a while I would see her post on the yahoo group, so I would post right after she did, because I knew she was on. Then she would contact me and give me some more run around.
I’ve e-mailed her 3 times asking for the DC number, she has yet to give it to me. We live in the same state. My package got to her in 2 days (1st class mail). I told her that I let the bow swap moderator in on the details of my swap issue. She told me that she sent a DC number to the moderator. I checked with the moderator and got the same story. The moderator has contacted Ashley 2-3 times and got one response saying she would send the DC number, but she never sent it. I informed Ashley of what I found out from the moderator and she claims she knows she sent it out. She told me to e-mail her again because she couldn’t check her e-mail…yet she can post on the Yahoo Group? That doesn’t make any sense. She didn’t want me posting it on the group because it would go to everyone on the group. Up until now I have not told anyone about who my issue was with, but now I have no choice. I made 7 bows that I put a lot of time into and she gave me the run around.
I wonder what happened to my deadbeat swapper. I’m not generally into bash-posting, but fair is fair, and I think it is fair and right to warn others.
My deadbeat swapper communicated very well with me the first few times…enough to let me know what she needed, etc. I do wonder if she had some bad experience or something to keep her from reciprocating, but I stray…
The bows I sent were some of my favorites so far. My dd BEGGED for me to keep them, but I didn’t have time to make another set prior to the deadline, so I told her no, we have to send them, but you’ll get some in a few days.
She never did because my partner fell off the face of the earth as far as bow swapping goes. I didn’t want to be a bad partner, so I went ahead and sent my bows in good faith and posted.
Well, some of my favorite bows went to Tera G. and I had one sad girlie who waited and waited for a package that never came. Neither did any more correspondance.
Even a “my home is flooded and I can’t do it.” or “I was sick .” or “Time got away from me and I was embarassed to send them so late so I decided not to send at all.” would have been preferable.
Amanda L. frogs2401
I made and MONOGRAMMED 3 bows and I even made those lycra headbands for her 4 month old with no hair. I hate hate hate to make those. Anyway, I was going on vacation before the deadline so I sent mine a couple days after she was assigned to me. She communicated long enough to tell me what Gymbo outfit she wanted them to match to and then the last I heard she was going to get the ribbon to make mine. Oh well…at least her little girl has some cute bows. I haven’t done a swap since and probably won’t.